"Hey..remember when you asked so-and-so if he was right or left handed and he slapped you in the face and asked you, 'well, which hand did I slap you with?'"
WHOOOOOOOOOOOOAH THERE...WTF?
I am outraged. Some kid in my kid's class thought it was cool or funny or wtf to hit her in the face in answer to whether he's right or left handed? So much for WITS - a school-wide policy taught from kindergarten.
W = walk away
I = ignore
T = talk it out
S = seek help
Well, I guess she followed the first step...!
I've always prided myself on raising my girls to believe they are worthy human beings and to stand up for themselves and for others. (Ok, clarification that Lawr feels the same way...but he's not writing this blog, I am, so yah, just try not to judge me as an overbearing loudmouth here.)
I see a major fault with this whole WITS program. If the very first step or suggestion is to walk away, how are we teaching our kids to preserve self-worth and not be victims? Zoe was quick to point out that it didn't hurt...much...."it just kinda made my lip feel tingly", and "I used my WITS".
I'd like to propose changing WITS to:
W= whack
I = injure
T = tattle
S = scream
I spent the majority of my life not sticking up for myself. Apologizing all the time. And then apologizing for apologizing so much. It wasn't until I had my daughters that I realized I *am* worth sticking up for. I *don't* have to put up with being treated like crap or being used or abused.
I *thought* I was doing a pretty good job of instilling self worth, self confidence and self love in my girls.
I'm shocked that her bff didn't stand up for her and seek out a playground monitor, or at least let their teacher know. Their teacher is amazing and I know she would have dealt with the whole thing matter of factly and would have preserved Zoe's pride and self-worth.
Most of all, I am beyond heartbroken that our sweet daughter feels she did something to provoke this.
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